🔒 Security by Shame: How Not to Handle Dev Mistakes

Let’s get something straight right up front:

No one writes perfect code. Not you. Not me. Not your 10x hero.

And yet, in way too many orgs, when a dev accidentally introduces a security flaw or pushes a bad config, the response isn’t support, systems analysis, or education. It’s:

• Passive-aggressive Slack threads.
• Blame-laced retrospectives.
• “Who did this?” emails CC’d to everyone and their VP.
• And the worst offender of all—Security by Shame.

🔥 What is Security by Shame?

It’s when your security culture is built not on resilience, training, or continuous improvement, but on fear.

It’s when a single mistake gets burned into team lore like a scarlet letter.
It’s when the security team operates like a gotcha squad, not a partner in defense.
It’s when leaders weaponize vulnerability to “set an example.”

You don’t improve security this way. You build a culture of silence, ass-covering, and slow, scared developers who'd rather ship nothing than ship wrong.

🧠 Let’s Be Real About Why Mistakes Happen

Most security mistakes don’t come from laziness or incompetence.
They come from:

• Incomplete onboarding
• Overworked engineers
• Unsafe team dynamics
• Lack of automation or checks
• Foggy ownership
• Rushed deadlines from above

So when a mistake happens and your first reaction is to shame the human, you’re doing exactly nothing to fix the system that allowed it.

You’re just making sure it happens again—quietly next time.

😬 Shame Kills Learning. Period.

Here’s what happens when you build a culture of fear around mistakes:

• People hide issues until they become incidents.
• No one asks questions that might make them look “junior.”
• Dev speed tanks because no one wants to take a risk.
• Your best people quietly leave for teams where they can breathe.

Security is important. Obviously. But blame ≠ accountability.
Shame ≠ rigor.
And fear ≠ protection.

✅ What Real Security Culture Looks Like

Let’s flip the script. Security should be part of your support system, not your disciplinary board. Here’s what that looks like:

• Blameless postmortems. Always.
• Early, frequent pairings with security. Not just audits at the end.
• Psychological safety. So people speak up before something breaks.
• Clear, shared ownership. If “everyone” owns it, no one does. Make it explicit.
• Tooling that protects the team. Linters, scanners, CI checks—it’s your job to make it hard to fail silently.
• Leaders who protect their people, not perform their punishment.

Security isn't a vibe check—it's a team sport. If the only thing stopping a breach is whether a dev is scared of getting yelled at… congrats, your entire system is hanging by a thread.

👊 Last Thought

A security culture rooted in shame is a leadership failure wearing a badge that says "Accountability."
It’s not strong. It’s not smart. It’s not safe.

If you want developers to care about security, give them the space to mess up and learn out loud. Build systems that catch issues early, teach through failure, and improve continuously.

Because a dev who’s been publicly shamed doesn’t get more careful.

They just stop trusting you.

Let’s lead better.
Let’s ship safer.
And let’s burn “security by shame” to the damn ground.

Lead Don't Ctrl